I recently came by a post by DHH, the inventor of Rails titled Step One Is Admitting You Have A Problem. This is a rebuttal to a post by a Jason Cohen, maker of a code review tool named Code Collaborator. In this post, Jason finds examples of people who manage to create a work-life balance, but then follows up with an argument that basically says "but most people don't to it that way". The knowledge that he seems to want people to take away is highlighted in bold on his post:
How much time does a bootstrapped company take? All of it.
It takes obsession to make a little company go.
Every successful bootstrapper I know puts work before self.
I've run into other people in the business with similar ideas. I've had a knowledgeable friend in the tech industry once tell me that "there is no four hour work week" and if I wanted to make a company work, it would take lots of long, hard work in order to get things done properly. The implicit impression I'd have to sacrifice my life in order to get a company off the ground, or be successful.
It's not the first time I'd heard that line of reasoning. I've come across it many times as a result of working in the tech industry for 14 years. It has influenced how I've chosen to work over the years. It's also resulted in a bit of cognitive dissonance on my part, in addition to significant amount of stress. In fact, a sentence from DHH's post describing Jason could also apply to me: "He talks the talk of reason and but walks the walk of an addict".
I've ranted about "working smarter, not harder" in the office. I've directed people to sites like Zen Habits and the Four Hour Work Week when they're too stressed about their workload and I'm in a relatively peaceful place.
At the same time, I've also bragged about "not needing to sleep much". I generally sleep between five and seven hours per night, only crossing that 8 hour per night threshold when my day is full of exercise (rollerblading 8 miles to work, or dancing for 4 hours). I've worked 16 hour days for weeks at a time, both in startups and in Fortune 500 companies. I like the idea of taking on difficult challenges and coming away with a "victory". I've been happy to receive the nods and pats on the back for "a job well done" when I worked myself to the bone. I've drank enough of the industry Kool-Aid to recognize that I am an addict. I also recognize that I need to change that behavior. I mean, I'm writing this blog entry at 5:00 AM after sleeping 4 hours after working an 11 hour day. Really.
Well, here is where I admit that I have a problem, just as Adam Milligan did in his blog entry, Programmers Anonymous. I have put my work before my life. Many people in this country do, which is one reason the topic is usually raised as Work-Life Balance. I've internalized this promulgated meme that dictates that a certain level and amount of work is "necessary" in order to succeed (Jason Cohen won't be the first or last to spread it).
The good news is, that with any meme, I as a fully functioning human adult being have the right to analyze, criticize and rebut it if it does not agree with the desired path for my life. I do not need to blindly accept any tenets placed before me. So, I'm deciding to put my life first. I'm going to have a "Life-Work" balance, because my life is more important than my work. Work is still important, so if I work with you, do not take this as an intent to slack off, or not take care of responsibilities, or do bad work.
I just choose to put my life first.This will, incidentally, probably result in better work.
Now, back to bed to catch some sleep.